Monday 12 June 2017

And the Madness ends!

Yesterday was our 13th wedding anniversary. We actually celebrated a couple of weeks ago when Mel's mum was visiting. We had a really nice staycation at the Shangri La. When I was explaining to Matilda that Mel and I would be staying away for the night to celebrate our wedding anniversary, her response was "I wanna come too! I've never been to a wedding before!" I explained that it wasn't an actual wedding but celebrating the day we were married. I suggested that we go out for lunch on the actual day to celebrate. And yesterday was that day and we had lunch at one of our favourite restaurants.

And so to the "Madness". This past 18 months has been the crazy busiest time I have known. It started just before we broke up for the Christmas holidays in 2015 when Mel said "I'm going out at lunchtime but I'll be back". I though "ok, whatever. You go out for lunch every Friday". I didn't think much more about it until I was walking to class after lunch. I ran into Mel on my way and she said "we need to talk". It sounded serious and I was immediately thinking about would could be wrong. We walked into Mel's classroom and she held out something in her hand. As I got closer, I could see it was a pregnancy tester. And it was pink! I looked up and said "fuck!" We had a quick chat but class was starting so I had to go. As I walked into class, all I could hear in my mind was "Fuck! What the fuck? Holy shit!" etc.. You get the general idea. I assume this was all in my mind because no-one said "oi, stop swearing!"

Anyhow, it took a while for us to get used to the idea of another baby. The last trimester was pretty difficult for Mel (and we would find out later that she developed hernia at this time). As usual, the last few weeks of term was manicly busy and this was compounded by having to pack our gear to move out of our apartment. We didn't want to move but our landlords (who live next door) wanted their parents to move in. They were very good about it and luckily we were to take over the lease on an apartment close to school from a colleague who was leaving Singapore . The building we moved to is literally a 5 minute walk to school and, as it was built in the 1980s, is very spacious. We have two great balconies; one looking over a forested area with loads of bird life and the other looking due west so we regularly see magnificent sunsets. And the moon as well:)



















Once school finished, we had to finish packing before we headed to Bali for a week or so to recharge. The original plan was to go in early July to meet up with Mel's mum & dad and her sister & family. But with Flynn due for late July those plans had to be revised and we went as soon as we could. The timing wasn't fantastic as the day after we got back was moving day! It was a nice holiday though and it was cool to watch Matilda release a turtle hatchling back into the ocean.




After moving, we started to get ourselves unpacked and sorted. It was a slowish process as Mel was struggling a bit. And of course, by the end of July our little guy was ready to put in an appearance. Mel and I headed to the hospital on the evening of 31 July. After lots of hard work from Mel, Flynn showed up around 1:50am on 1 August. We were very lucky to have Mel's mum staying with us for a few weeks, which made the transition a little easier. Especially for Matilda. Flynn's arrival meant that I missed the first couple of days at school. In some ways it was good as I didn't have to sit through dry, boring stuff. It did mean that I was a little bit behind where I wanted to be in terms of preparation. Oh well.

This year at school was busy as usual, but different because of the broken sleep for first term. It was a bit of a struggle at times but once we were home from Bali after the October holidays, Flynn settled into a nice sleep routine and Mel and I started to catch up on our missed sleep. Our trip to Bali ended up being good after a rocky start. We had booked a villa on Air BnB. When we arrived we found the place not really matching the photos. The place was tired looking and there was mould on the curtains and underneath the wall paper. The bathroom basin drained straight on to the floor which was really dangerous. The place was generally not clean and there was a wasp nest in the kitchen area. The pool was nice though and if it had been Mel & I by ourselves, we might have stayed. But with two little kids it wasn't ok.

We got in touch with the owner with no success. We had to go through AirBnB's conflict resolution process and I have to say they were really helpful and we ended getting our money back less the one night we stayed at the place. Luckily there was a decent hotel across the road so we spent two nights there before we found another villa that was more honest. The last four days were reasonably relaxing which was cool.

Although not doing as much travelling for school this year, I still got to Saigon for a very cool conference on IT in education, Hong Kong for an IB workshop and of course my trip to Bali with the Year 10 Geographers. These were all cool, but it's always hard to be away from Mel, Matilda and Flynn. We managed some family trips too, getting to Bali in October, NZ for Christmas and Penang in March.

Adding to the 'madness' was my decision to start an MEd. programme through Waikato University. The course is offered through the uni's Centre for Global Studies in Education. The people in charge are former Geography teachers and the course, while not Geography focused, definitely has a geographic slant to it, which is what made it attractive to me. It started really well and I got an 'A' for my first assignment. The second half was more challenging in terms of trying to pay enough attention while still managing all the school stuff and spending time with Mel & the kids. I found it quite a struggle over the last few weeks. I got there in the end but I'm not sure about my grade:(

It was so cool to wake up this morning and not have to got to school. Both Flynn and Matilda slept well and it was around 8am when we woke up. Not a massive sleep in, but as anyone with young kids would agree, pretty nice:) We have about seven weeks off now. We'll be hitting Bali in early July to meet up with Mel's mum & dad and her sister's family. Towards the end of July we'll in Saigon for a couple nights before 6 days on the beach near Hoi An. Really looking forward to both trips, as well as just hanging out at home.

Ciao!






Sunday 11 June 2017

A New (School) Year

*UPDATE* 11/6/17

So, I started writing this post during the first of week school. In August 2016! It is now 11 June 2017 (our wedding anniversary by the way!) and school finished on Friday. I will write something more detailed about this year. Soon(ish)!

August 2016

School starts in earnest again on Wednesday. Which also happens to be my birthday! Teachers have been in at school for a week already, two in the case of the new staff. I don't mind coming in for that week, though some of the stuff is a little dry and boring. Luckily for me, Flynn decided to show up very early on Monday morning. Which meant that I was away for Monday and Tuesday and therefore missed out on some those dry, boring things. I shall have to buy the little man a beer. When he's 18 of course:)

Flynn is doing well. He feeding ok and sleeping ok. Although last night was rough. He basically didn't sleep between 10:30pm and 11:30am. And of course this was accompanied by much crying. Luckily Matilda had gone to sleep quickly and slept through it all. Unlike Mel & myself. We had maybe 2-3 hours of sleep, which very hard on Mel as she is already tired from the birth and feeding. Not to mention sore! He seemed to go down ok tonight, so we'll wait and see how we go. It would be good to get some decent sleep between now and Wednesday morning as school starts then!



I think Matilda is having mixed feelings about her little brother. She is obviously very excited to have a little brother as we had explained to her that we probably wouldn't be able to give her a sibling. We explained the IVF process we went through to have her and while she was a bit sad, she accepted that she probably wouldn't get a sibling. When we told her we would be having a baby, she was super excited.


However, the reality is that new babies don't do much except eat, poo and sleep. Matilda is a little frustrated that she can't play with Flynn right away. But I am certain that she will be a great big sister. About three months ago, she asked Mel if she could have her baby and pushchair that we gave her for Christmas a couple of years ago. Matilda has taken care of her baby ever since. In bed, the baby took up most of the space and Matilda squished herself into the corner to make room for the baby. A couple of nights ago, Flynn was crying and she brought in her music box which plays Lullaby and said "maybe this will help Flynn go to sleep." Very sweet.

While school starts on Wednesday for the kids, teachers have been at school since last Monday (earlier in the case of the new teachers). As we stayed in Singapore for most of the holidays I went into school a few times before Flynn was born. I missed the first two days, so being able to get some stuff done was good. I'm probably not exactly where I want to be in terms of preparation but I'm not too badly off.

We have a few new staff starting this year, including two in our department. It was good to meet them and help out where I could.